Mental strength is a key factor that contributes to achieving success in life and building a strong character, capable of controlling emotions, thoughts, and behaviors.
"13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do" is the title of a book by British psychotherapist Amy Morin, where she shares her perspective on developing mental strength through 13 traits that, according to her, mentally strong individuals typically avoid.
These traits serve as a guide to overcoming challenges, tackling obstacles, and achieving accomplishments without getting stuck on problems or falling captive to crises. Being consumed by these issues can lead to destructive outcomes, such as insomnia, isolation, and sleep disturbances.
Here is a summary of the 13 things the author advises against:
1- Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Yourself: The book warns against wasting time on self-pity, as it is a destructive habit that drains time and generates negative emotions. Instead, cultivate gratitude and appreciate what you have.
2- Don’t Give Away Your Power: Morin suggests that when you allow others to dictate your responsibilities, you limit your success. Preserve your energy, set your goals, and work toward them. In other words, don’t relinquish your power when facing challenges or difficult people.
3- Don’t Try to Please Everyone: Attempting to please everyone is a futile goal, wasting both time and effort. Abandoning the urge to make others happy will make you stronger and more self-confident.
Moran says that Mentally strong people don’t need to please everyone all the time and are not afraid to say 'no.' They are kind and socially accepted, yet able to handle annoying people.
4- Don’t Shy Away from Change: Many fear change, but it can hinder progress. To improve, you must be willing to change and try new things, so others don’t surpass you.
5- Don’t Fear Calculated Risks: Mentally strong people don’t shy away from calculated risks. They consider potential risks, weigh possible benefits, and explore alternatives before deciding—without being reckless.
6- Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Repeatedly: It’s crucial to learn from the past and avoid repeating mistakes. Make wise decisions for the future by planning carefully to prevent similar errors.
7- Don’t Focus on Things You Can’t Control: It feels good to have everything under control, but assuming responsibility for everything can be problematic. Focus instead on what you can’t control, such as preparing for a storm rather than trying to prevent it. This mindset reduces stress, increases happiness, and opens up new opportunities.
8- Don’t Dwell on the Past: Dwelling on the past and regretting it is counterproductive. Instead, draw lessons from past experiences, view facts objectively, and plan positively for the future.
9- Don’t Resent the Success of Others: Mentally strong people appreciate others’ successes without envy, using them as motivation for their achievements.
10- Don’t Give Up After the First Failure: Failure can lead to discouragement, but a mentally strong person overcomes it and tries again. Failure can strengthen you and provide wisdom for the next attempt.
11- Don’t Fear Being Alone: Solitude can be used for planning and prioritizing. Mentally strong people value time alone to reflect on their ideas and goals.
12- Don’t Feel Entitled: Mentally strong people don’t feel the world owes them anything. Instead, they seek success independently and seize opportunities without relying on others.
13- Don’t Expect Immediate Results: Desire for growth and success doesn’t happen overnight. Patience is essential, and mentally strong people view their goals as a marathon rather than a sprint.
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