“I am not obligated to serve my husband, nor am I obligated to care for my mother-in-law. I am not obligated to stay up late for the comfort of my children, nor am I obligated to breastfeed, cook, marry, or care about motherhood!”
These are doses of “poison” that seep into the minds and hearts of Muslim girls through hateful feminist movements and ideologies aligned with the West. Their sole focus is to dismantle the family and destabilize its foundations—sometimes under the guise of women’s rights, other times in the name of gender equality, or the so-called rights of women to work, travel, and so forth.
The matter is gravely serious when one delves into the minds of girls and adolescents, discovering their negative impressions of marriage. It is viewed as a barrier to women's education, obtaining master's and doctoral degrees, traveling abroad, or ascending to prominent positions in prestigious companies with high salaries—even reaching the fields of politics, finance, and business.
This disease has infiltrated Muslim girls in Arab societies that, until recently, resisted such destructive ideas. These ideas seek to incite rebellion and rivalry between men and women, promoting a sense of independence and materialism among women. As a result, jobs have become more important than marriage, money more important than men, and travel more important than children.
I have personally heard women say, “Money is worth a hundred men,” implying that money—be it a pound, dinar, or any local currency—is more valuable than a man who provides tenderness and comfort, bound by ties of affection and mercy under the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him).
Around me, I see countless cases of working women traveling abroad in pursuit of money, leaving behind husbands and children under the pretense of ensuring a luxurious life and raising their family’s social status. But is depriving a family of love, warmth, and cohesion truly a mark of social advancement?
There are also those who raise the slogan, “I want to prove myself,” abandoning their natural inclinations and refusing marriage. They reject one suitor after another until they find themselves racing against time, only to wake up one day alone, confined by four walls, consumed by spinsterhood, isolation, frustration, and depression. Tragically, this path might even lead—may Allah forbid—to a mental health institution.
Worse still, there are those who fear marriage, childbirth, and breastfeeding, lest their bodies change, their waistlines expand, or their figures lose their shape. They cling to fleeting physical standards, not realizing that time and old age will eventually wear them down. Then, regret will creep in, along with a longing for a child to be their support in old age—at a time when regret will no longer help.
The Arab entertainment industry is filled with so-called “stars” and “singers” who refused motherhood, some even resorting to abortion, sacrificing their role as mothers under the pretext of being busy with their careers or preserving their fame and stardom. Ultimately, they reap bitterness, loneliness, and regret.
Some women have been influenced by this negative propaganda about marriage and family, alarmed by divorce rates and incidents of domestic violence. They retreat to their parents' homes, rely on their phones, and may even raise a cat or dog, claiming that their pet fills their life with companionship and is more loyal than humans.
When this poisoning persists, some lawyers argue that a wife is not obligated to breastfeed her child, or doctors claim there is no legal or religious requirement for a woman to cook for her husband. Academics might even declare that housework is not a wife’s responsibility. What we face here is a deliberate and systematic attack on the institution of marriage. It operates through black propaganda, epitomizing the saying: “Repetition is more persuasive than magic.”
This is a deliberate and alarming form of corruption, supported by Western nations, international organizations, and secular feminist movements, bolstered by misleading media machines and massive budgets. All of this occurs amidst a concerning decline in educational, religious, and reform platforms, leaving the field open for global agendas with Zionist dimensions aimed solely at undermining the Muslim family and reducing marriage to a materialistic or competitive relationship devoid of affection and mercy.
As a woman, I can assert that a generation of women is being raised on the culture of “women are not obligated,” treating it as a trend and a mark of modernity and progress. In reality, it is far from that. It is a sign of societal disintegration, a malicious call for liberation and shirking responsibility, and a sinister agenda to alienate women from marriage and family in pursuit of other goals.
It must be said that many women fall prey to “trends,” controversial opinions, sensationalist media, and programs that incite rebellion. Meanwhile, men toil to provide a living, fulfill family needs, and sometimes take on multiple jobs to offer their wives and children a decent life. Yet, they are met with media promoting ingratitude and rebellion, leading wives to turn against their husbands, disavow their gratitude, and destroy their households, resulting in divorce, family breakdown, and children left to suffer.
Wake up, women! Not everything that glitters is gold. Family comes first. Marriage comes first. Motherhood comes first. Education, work, travel, hobbies, and business come second. What we need is righteous, beneficial women who are half of society and raise the other half.
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