Married life can face moments of unhappiness and lethargy, which may escalate into quarrels and disagreements. This could stem from the couple being under life pressures or going through financial and familial crises, creating an atmosphere of negative energy between them.
One partner may be responsible for this atmosphere by bringing their problems and conflicts from work home, or the woman might contribute by being excessively jealous, searching through her husband's belongings, and eavesdropping on his calls, thereby enhancing this negative energy and creating what is known as "marital discord."
However, responsibility cannot be placed on one partner alone. Both may contribute to this atmosphere negatively by nitpicking mistakes, not overlooking small issues, and constantly criticizing and reprimanding, especially when criticism is delivered in a loud tone and in front of the children.
Therefore, it is wise to remove negative energy from the home and inject more positive energy through simple and concise steps, which we summarize as follows:
1. Avoid constant criticism, try to boost each other's self-confidence, and frequently offer praise, compliments, and words of thanks. This reduces tension between spouses and defuses negative energy.
2. Engage in activities together, such as exercising, going for walks, cooking together, or pursuing a hobby. These activities bring vitality to marital life and alleviate life's pressures.
3. Relationship life coach Joanna Khalifa, in her conversation with Al Jazeera Net, advises thoroughly cleaning the house, adding aesthetic touches, spreading flowers around, and getting rid of clutter and broken items. Creating an organized and beautiful environment at home positively impacts the couple and generates positive energy between them. A cluttered home or a dirty kitchen is unlikely to foster a loving atmosphere within the family and may instead be a source of tension, conflict, and arguments.
4. Pay attention to personal hygiene and appearance for both spouses. Using attractive perfumes and wearing favorite colors sends a positive message to the other partner, creating an atmosphere of happiness. This can be enhanced by reminiscing about past memories and recalling enjoyable and beautiful times together.
5. Words play a crucial role in spreading positive vibes. Greeting your spouse with a warm smile, asking about their well-being and how their day was, along with a bright smile and a gentle touch, can alleviate any existing tension and create a sense of intimacy between the couple.
6. Psychological analyst Caitlin Killoren, in an article published on the "Hello Relish" website, recommends that the husband send expressive messages showing longing and love during work hours or make a call to check on his family. These may seem like simple gestures, but they are capable of building trust and affection, enhancing positive energy between spouses, and achieving the desired happiness.
7. Give gifts and pay attention to happy occasions such as holidays and anniversaries, as these hold emotional significance for women. Express love, appreciation, and understand each other's psychological, emotional, and physical needs.
8. Handle problems calmly, resort to dialogue, and avoid anger and aggression. Postpone blame and reproach to another time when tempers have cooled down. Limit the duration of estrangement and quarrels, as this quickly reduces tension and gives both parties a genuine opportunity to overcome life's challenges.
9. Seek help and consult specialists and trustworthy, knowledgeable people. Attend marital relationship courses, as knowledge is undoubtedly a positive weapon that dispels ignorance, negativity, and unhappiness. Men need to understand women's nature, and vice versa.
10. Stay close to God, engage in frequent remembrance, pray together, wake up for dawn prayers, and read the Quran. The connection with God will bring them tranquility and peace, protect them from envy and Satan, and fill their home with love and mercy.
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