Are we making marriage harder by expecting a perfect spouse? Some people build longer and longer checklists: Attractive. Religious. Patient. Successful. Understanding. No flaws. But healthy marriage decisions require more than chasing perfection. Three principles can help: - Define your true non-negotiables. - Rank your priorities. - Remember that you are not perfect either. The Prophet ﷺ taught believers not to reduce a spouse to one disliked trait, saying that if one characteristic is disliked, another may be pleasing. And Islamic guidance places particular emphasis on religion and character when considering marriage. Look for someone you can build with not a flawless human being.