How can I bring Islamic awareness into the daily life of my family without being overbearing?
Sheikh Salman al-Oadah
Here are some small steps that you should take that will help in bringing Islamic awareness into your home:
1. Put together a small library in your home containing books and articles that address the needs of the men, women, and children in your household. You should also have some Islamic storybooks for small children. You should get a few Islamic history books and inspirational works. You need to make the library well-rounded and accessible to the various members of the household, so they will use it and through it become predisposed to accepting what is right.
2. Beside this print library you should place a small audio library containing recorded lectures, Islamic songs, and sermons for all the members of the household. There should be some lectures dealing with Islamic laws and the performance of acts of worship and some that deal exclusively with women’s issues. You should also draw up a program to help the members of your household benefit from these two libraries.
3. It is essential that that each one of us establishes a class at home, at least once a week, for all of the family. It should include Qur’ân memorization, hadîth memorization, a question-and-answer session, instruction on how to correctly perform acts of worship, and something to soften the hearts. In this way you can have an impact on household and teach them what they need.
4. Another way of providing guidance is by enjoining what is right, forbidding what is wrong, and exhorting to righteousness. We should do this with wisdom and patience, in the manner that the Prophet (peace be upon him) showed us. When he saw something wrong, he would gently point it out while exhorting the people to goodness, offering guidance, and reminding them about Allah.
Enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong is not an opportunity to show your strength and authority, but a time to reach out and enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong while giving a reminder about Allah. We are supposed to awaken the hearts of the people in the household and instill in those hearts the fear and love of Allah and a desire to please Him and attain Paradise. This requires from us an approach that will inspire faith.